My Lover Style

The Liberated Lover

59% partner focus, 61% aggressiveness, 90% adventurousness

Based on the results of this test, it is highly likely that:

You prefer your romance and love to wild and daring rather than typical or boring, you would rather pursue than be pursued and, when it comes to physical love, your satisfaction comes more from providing a wonderful time to your partner than simply seeking your own.

This places you in the Lover Style of: The Liberated Lover.

The Liberated Lover is a wonderful Lover Style, and forms the kind of free-thinking, sexually-exciting, self-confident lover that society once condemned but that a liberal-mind cherishes and exults. The Liberated Lover is a treasure to find, though it can sometimes be difficult to do so because they are often already engaged in relationships or are in high-demand if "in the market."

In terms of physical love, the Liberated Lover is possibly the most thrilling and demanding of all, with the one potential drawback being that it is possible to feel 'overmatched' at times by their prowess and selfless giving. Given trust and understanding, and the right lover, the Liberated Lover can be a delight in bed.

Best Compatibility can probably be found with: The Exotic Lover (most of all) or the Carnal Lover, or the Suave Lover.

Congratulations!
Thanks Again! -- THE LOVER STYLE PROFILE TEST



My test tracked 3 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender:

	You scored higher than 99% on partner focus
	You scored higher than 99% on aggressiveness
	You scored higher than 99% on adventurousnes

The gifts are worth it

Whirling and swirling 'round my brain today...
the highest right, the internal, instinctive guidance system for the ferrets in Curious Lives... and how that connects to The Secret and the meter for our feelings... and how that connects to the House of Contracts in The Journey Home... and random thoughts of gifts and exchanges and agreements and karma and perspective... acceptance: forgiveness and gratitude...
and such sage advice from the stars today: Although you want to be socially involved, today it's difficult to tell others what you need. That's fine, for keeping conversations on the lighter side now will likely work out for the best. Otherwise, you can become so overly demanding that you won't get anything at all. Turning down your volume and sense of urgency makes sense.
...sounds good to me!

Haiku Heaven

We can't come to gym
new furnace installation
say hi to the gang.
~Mel

A kind man you are
When you listen to me rave
Thanks for being you.
~Me

New inspiration
The sacred feminine shines
from deep within you.
~Scotty

The gifts are sublime
Your words speak straight to my soul,
Magic is afoot.
~Me

The Journey Home

one of my all-time, makin' sense of the universe, heart soothing, soul inspiring, most favorite, sacred books. I ordered two from Amazon; one to loan. I know it's appearance today is a blessing, I ♥ divine timing. Just holding the book, I am filled with the memories of the lessons therein, anticipation for reuniting with the Michael Thomas in me, inspiration already!
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It's a parable about everyman (as in every HUman) and the journey of Life... if one has one, that is! Existence vs Living? There's a big difference between being alive with a heartbeat and truly, deeply BEing Alive, having a Life, your heart and soul a-singing. What makes one life more joyful than another? We carry with us intrinsic lessons/gifts for ourselves and others we meet along our path; every encounter is an exchange of gifts, of knowledge, of experience of what it means to be human. One can become open to those gifts when Gratitude is deep; when we uncover, utilize, strengthen, and OWN the tools of perspective at hand, our Journey Home is easier; no matter how rocky our road. Home. Isn't it a comfortable word? We can manifest those ideals of Home in our here and now, to carry inside with us where ever we go - We are Home!
A book with Namaste at it's heart.
I can't wait to curl up; can you tell?

I am Brave

Gemini: Truth or dare? You'll take both -- and a double-dog dare while you're at it. You're fearless when it comes to getting a new venture off the ground or discussing a matter that everyone else is too scared to bring up. -midco.com
Gemini: The edginess is settling down and you are thankful that your world seems like a more relaxed place, but this doesn't mean you are slacking. Although you may not be as motivated today, you still can become overly enthusiastic for a short duration. The idea of beginning a project might sound like a good idea, but you may not have sufficient energy to follow through and make it happen. -tarot.com

Like I needed another reason...

Midday Haiku:

I just kissed a girl!
When I open the car's door,
Her scent still lingers.

~scotty

Never underestimate your own power!

Gemini: You are interested in discovering what drives others to seek power at work or in love. You may be ready to delve into the intense world of hidden feelings, a place that you often avoid. Now, however, you are willing to overcome your resistance, even if you are not comfortable with the thought of what's ahead. You are on the right track, for you will surely feel relief once you know the truth.
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Aaaaaaaaalready a great day! We got some respite from our gloomy enclave to venture out to shop... with Scotty :) So very nice of him to postpone his well-deserved nap to schlep us around to entertain him! It was nice to have another person there to talk my ideas through with... Hayden wanted to buy a cheezy card reader, on clearance for $15; he left it with me and went back to the toy dept, so I had a few moments to decide my strategy for imparting some "buyer beware" wisdom about this purchase; it was a rare treat to turn to Scotty and admit this is one of those times I'm really at a loss for how to meet my goal of autonomy for Hayden and his giftcard while avoiding the inevitable sadness over a regretted purchase; I talked through all my concerns, so when Hayden approached, I was able to share those with him, without making a value judgment about his choice (Do you like X-men? What happens when they stop making booster packs? How much are the booster packs? $4 eek! Should we be suspicious that it's on clearance?), he had already set his sights on a Tamagachi (which he already knows the entertainment value of...) and a set of NintenDogs trading cards. Next, we shopped for used video games... didn't find anything he really wanted... at the last minute, he grabbed a Grand Theft Auto game and decided he wanted it; I was torn! Are you asking for the game because I said I would buy you one and you don't want to leave with nothing? OR is this really a game you want? The GTA games we already own don't get played very often... Hayden was initially mad at me, but soon realized that the promise of a video game really IS better postponed and used on a game he really, really wants, instead of settling for yet another one he won't play. At the end of the conversation, Hayden was walking ahead of us and I sighed and said, "My tongue is bloody from biting back the moral objections I have to that game, I'm glad it was resolved without having to go there!" Sometimes it's so exhausting to do such mental dancework, I imagine it's really exhausting for someone outside of this lifestyle to watch!
Scotty happily returned us home and is on his way to dreamland :)
Peace has once again settled into our lives.

The cards in my hands...

Judgment

May you receive what you had lost.

Deck: Goddess [card art © US Games]

What has traditionally been known as the Judgement card, sometimes entitled Resurrection, represents the great reunion that the ancients believed would happen once in every age. This was the time when souls are harvested and taken Home to their place of origin, outside the solar system. Then the World is seeded with a batch of new souls and the process starts over.

>From a modern point of view, this great reunion -- which includes every personality that you have ever been and every soul that you have done deep work with -- reunites to consciously complete the process. In a way, we symbolically celebrate this returning to center every year on our birthday.

In personal terms, the Judgment cards points to freedom from inner conflicts, and so clear a channel, that the buried talents and gifts of past incarnations can come through an individual in this lifetime. This card counsels you to trust the process of opening yourself, because what emerges is of consistently high quality. You can effortlessly manifest as a multi-dimensional being, and assist in evoking that response from others.

and so are the days of her life...

This whole new thing is so fun, I can't eat, I can't stop smiling, I'm constantly tingly, I keep my bed cleared off at all times ::bg:: Cool bonus: In Scotty's absence, I make sure to have extra 1:1 time with the Boy, so he's more comfortable when S's here. My willingness to attend him while I've got company is a boost to him, as well...
It really is a pleasure to date a self proclaimed slacker, as he just loves to hang out with us. Last night we got to watch two movies! I picked Hitch, 'cause it's the very best Valentine movie :) I forgot how much it focused on first kisses and the female psychology there about :::blush::: We relinquished the living room and watched This is Spinal Tap on my bed (a luxury for the futon guy!) ... we snuggled and giggled and held hands and he managed to instigate a really sweet kiss ♥
We talked a little bit about my list of cities for new homes... I told him Hayden has nixed Corvallis (as it is too far from everything; we're quite used to being a day's drive from anywhere we want to be!) and I'm not really sure where we'll land (my moving muse has made way for grief)... hanging around Sioux Falls for a while longer isn't the worst case scenario. It may have been this conversation that earned me the kiss ;) There's some strange foreshadowing here in my blog like this on the day before I met Scotty, or this one (note the picture!).
I will land exactly where I'm supposed to land. The gift of Bodhicitta means I have no attachment or value judgment of my new home, mere gratitude is enough - and I got loads of that!!
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S: Your aura shines bright and hot, yellow and white... I'm so very happy we've met :)
me: I am mystified by divine timing... for you I am just plain grateful.
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He's carefully considering accompanying me to the luncheon on Saturday. Knowing Mel and Eric are attending helps, but he's not quite sure. (it'd be a gratitude party indeed!) How much of a hard sell can I give? I'm glad he's not taking the responsibility lightly ;) He'll be playing later that evening and I'm hoping to actually see them perform. And popping in to Jeanie's 40th year celebration concert at Cool Beans... All this joy! I'm glad to have room for it ;)
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Okay, who's up to being my evening's chaperon?

Who should be my Valentine?

The guy who braves below freezing temps to pick up takeout from his favorite restaurant for the three of us to enjoy. The guy who has never seen a single episode of 24 and is willing to confront my Keifer fantasy and enjoy it with me - and who really didn't mind that it didn't happen last night. The guy who doesn't sigh or become ruffled when the kids need my attention. The guy who happily snuggles up for an episode of South Park with Alex when my friend John calls me from Alaska. The guy who gets tears in his eyes when I mention Hannah. The guy who shared the message from a Beck song: Take your heart off the shelf, it's worth it. The guy who wonders aloud if *this* should be considered a date, as he's not taking me out anywhere nor spending money on minutiae (resounding response: If we're having fun, it's a date!). The guy who loves my cat and happily reminds me how much she loves me. The guy who received my ATC Valentines with the very appreciation I was shooting for!
The guy who sends text messages like this:
I enjoyed myself thoroughly last night; I can't wait until the next time! The phone in the glue - Elizabethtown. It was wonderful. Thank you.
Bon Soir, mme. How was Keifer? Hope you three had a warm, safe day :)
Our parallels are remarkable; I slept late after realizing I don't have class on Tues... Such lovely, delicious slack.
I want to eat more fatty foods and hibernate in your warm bedroom for the rest of the winter :)
The messages echo the film the other night :) (referring to E-town conversation between Kirstin and Orlando)
Thank you for the pleasure of your company :)
I'm sorry... Too much to drink, smell like smoke... rare for me. This is twice now- too much to drink while talking to you- I must re-examine! (I responded: rare for me, too... it generally takes much longer before I drive men to drink!)
I'm sorry... I'm such a lightweight... I just didn't want to be 'that guy' coming over late after beers. How was the film?
Life is good. Sleep thee well, m'lady.
R'eves plaisants, mme.
Confession time: you made a very special appearance in last night's dream... Nothing freaky, I promise ;)
I just want to say that you & H are absolutely wonderful; it's amazing to watch the two of you interact... Sleep in peace tonight :)
Why, pray tell, are you up so early? Some handsome young man keeping you occupied? ;)
Sleep well, mon cheri :) I haven't been someone's valentine in yeeears. Thanks 4 the early morning feel good!
Life IS good. Many thanks for the challah fr. toast... Amazing!!
I like beginnings, esp. new ones ;)
Pierogies, dolmas, borscht and meat on a stick. And Jack on the teevee. (And you! I responded)
A kiss at the door! I've been walking on air all morning and I can't imagine a more noble gift than that feeling. Thank you so much, D.
I'm so sorry, I just remembered what time it actually is. Grab Patches and go back to sleep. Another fantastic dream last night! (6:06 this morning)
...so much guilt. I've robbed you both of sleep. I directed my 1st show today :D
I'd love to show you sometime :D
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I'm thinkin' this is the guy, the one who really does deserve to be my Valentine! loooooong after February is over....